Fairy-tale love is hard to find—here are some tips for keeping your
relationship healthy and happy.
One of the most common questions we hear is, "How do we make our
relationship work?" The answers
are complicated, varied, and, after a while, can start to sound like
muddled platitudes. But these
commonplace sayings get repeated because they work. With this in mind,
we pulled together 12 cliches
that, in fact, reveal simple, tried-and-true advice for having a
healthy, happy relationship. Read on and
let us know what you think:
1. Mind your manners. "Please," "thank you" and "you're welcome," can
go a long way in helping your
partner remember that you respect and love him and don't take him for
granted. Relationship Rehab: 12 Steps To Becoming A Happier Couple In
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2. Variety is the spice of life. Studies have shown that dullness can
lead to dissatisfaction with a
relationship. Trying something new can be as simple as visiting an
unfamiliar restaurant or as grand as a
backpacking trip through Sri Lanka. Discoveries you make together will
keep you feeling close.
3. The couple that plays together, stays
together. Find a sport or hobby that you both love
(no, watching TV does not count) and make that a
priority in your relationship. Camping, biking, building model
trains… whatever it is, find something you
enjoy doing together.
4. Fight right. In order to have productive arguments, keep these
rules in mind. Don't call your spouse
names. When things get really tough, take a break from the argument.
Let the other person finish his/her
sentences. Don't initiate a discussion when you're angry. 5 Things
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5. I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine. No one likes demands
(unless you're in a BDSM role
play), but everyone can appreciate a compromise. If you want your
lover to do something and you're not
sure he'll be agreeable, the quickest way to avoid a confrontation is
to sweeten the deal. For example:
"Sure, I'll watch Monday Night Football if you take me to see the next
movie of my choice."
6. Two heads are better than one. Being in a relationship basically
means you've made a merger;
you've not only joined assets but inherited the other's problems as
well. Rather than looking at his
problems as merely his own, tackle them together. For example, if he's
gaining weight, rather than
pushing him to diet on his own, enroll in an exercise program together.
7. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Maintain your own friendships
and occasionally have a night
out without your significant other. Doing things without your s.o. not
only makes you miss him or her, it
also keeps you sane. And, in case the relationship doesn't work out,
you'll still have your friends.
8. Sound it out. It other words: communicate! Talking out the tough
subjects—money, religion, fidelity,
raising kids—will not be the most fun you've had, but it'll be
valuable. The Top 10 Traits That Attract A
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9. Laughter is the best medicine. Learn to laugh at
yourself and at silly mistakes. If he throws your
$300 cashmere sweater in the dryer, laughing it off
is, in the long run, better than getting angry. It's is just a $300
cashmere sweater, not the end of the
10. Keep your eyes on the prize. Yes, he forgot your co-worker's name
for the tenth time, but it
probably doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. If you keep your
perspective fixed on the goal—to be
in a happy, functioning partnership—you're less likely to get tangled
up in every minor annoyance.
Remember, you both want the same thing.
11. Quitters never win. Find a ritual and keep it alive, no matter
what. Whether it's always kissing each
other good night, renewing wedding vows every year, sleeping in as
late as you want once a month or
committing to having sex once a week, pick something that makes you
both feel good and stick to it,
even when you're tempted to skip. What A Male Orgasm Feels Like
12. When the going gets tough, the tough get going… to therapy.
Studies show that couples who
seek counseling during rocky periods are more successful in resolving
their issues than those who don't.
Whether its from a religious figure, counselor or mental health
professional, getting an expert to help
sort out strife is as wise as forgoing self-installation and hiring a
plumber to put in a new sink.