10 Ways to Get Closer to Your Partner

When two people are into each other,

romantically or platonically, there is a sense of

"togetherness" between them reflecting their

intimacy and engagement in the relationship.

If you want to get your relationship back on

track, treating your partner with the

tenderness and kindness you offer your closest

friends may be helpful.

Below are a few suggestions that may help you

recharge your intimate relationship:

Befriending Your Partner

1. When speaking to your partner, listen to the

words you use and the tone of your voice, and

to the attitude you bring to the encounter. If

it's not reflective of the commitment and

intimacy you aspire to, then revamp your

communication style to let your appreciation

show through.

2. Reflect on the varied messages you send your

partner by the way you treat them—and revise,

if needed. Do you show your partner the same

respect that you show your friends? Do you

make a big deal out of your partner's decision

to order a venti caramel macchiato with extra

whipped cream, while you would never say a

word to a friend who went overboard on

calories? If this sounds familiar, reflect on the

"golden rule" and think about how you'd feel if

your partner did these things to you.

3. Encourage your partner in what they do and

refrain from criticizing their efforts. Just as

friends expect you to provide encouragement

and support, so does he or she. Even if you

would rather see a job done right than have

the luxury of not having to do it yourself, be

tolerant of your partner's attempts and accept,

accept, accept .

4. Be patient when your partner is dead-set on

making a mistake no matter how much

foresight, wisdom, and insight you want to

impart. We often laugh indulgently about our

friends who have to learn lessons the hard

way; we need to recognize that our partners

might also need to go that route. (Exceptions

would of course include matters of life and

limb, or potential financial insolvency; but a

little spackle on the wall should be okay.)

5. Offer to be a part of your partner's projects or

hobbies. Don't fake enthrallment, but offering

to find the right screwdriver or go on the

occasional bird walk is something any friend

would do.

6. Avoid unrealistic expectations. If you expect

your partner to tag along on shopping trips,

for example, be willing to do the same for him

or her.

7. If your partner really can't listen to 45 minutes

of "why I hate my job" each night, simply

provide the synopsis. Not all of your friends

like opera.

8. If your partner feels safe enough to open up to

you, respect that trust and don't beat them

down, dismiss their feelings, or tell them to

"move on."

9. If you've got a complaint, share it as you

would with a friend—calmly and rationally,

with care and maybe a little humor.

10. Remember: Romance and sexual desire may

ebb and flow over the course of a relationship,

but friendship and companionship are the

fuels that keeps a couple moving forward.


Kofi Oppong Kyekyeku

I am a Ghanaian Broadcast Journalist/Writer who has an interest in General News, Sports, Entertainment, Health, Lifestyle and many more.

Related Articles

Leave a Reply

Back to top button