Celestine Donkor Lists Three Marriage Red Flags, Says Tithing Reflects a Man’s Character

Marriage conversations in Ghana often revolve around love, finances, faith and communication. Gospel musician Celestine Donkor has now added her voice to that discussion, offering what she believes are three critical qualities women should examine before saying “I do.”

Speaking in a video shared on her Instagram page, the award-winning singer encouraged women to look beyond romantic feelings and pay closer attention to behavioural patterns that could shape married life. Her comments touched on emotional communication, sexual compatibility and religious commitment, with her strongest assertion being that women should avoid marrying men who do not pay tithe.

Her advice has since generated conversations online, particularly because it links spiritual discipline with a person’s approach to relationships and responsibility.

Silent treatment as a warning sign

According to Celestine Donkor, one of the clearest signs of potential trouble is a partner who withdraws communication whenever disagreements arise.

She argued that while conflicts are inevitable in every relationship, refusing to communicate for prolonged periods can create emotional distance that becomes difficult to overcome after marriage.

“The first thing to look out for is silent treatment. If there’s an issue and the person gets angry, then goes the whole day, weeks, or even months without speaking to you, you should be very careful about marrying such a person.

“Women are naturally conversational. When there’s a problem, they usually want to talk about it and resolve it. So if someone resorts to giving you the silent treatment, it’s something that can be very difficult to live with in marriage.”

Relationship experts have long identified prolonged silence during conflict as a communication challenge. While some people temporarily withdraw to process emotions, extended periods of refusing to engage can leave problems unresolved and increase frustration between couples.

Celestine’s remarks therefore place emotional availability alongside more traditional considerations such as financial stability or family background.

Compatibility beyond attraction

The gospel artiste also urged women to have honest conversations about sexual compatibility before marriage.

She suggested that couples should understand each other’s expectations and levels of sexual interest, warning that significant differences could become a recurring source of tension after the wedding.

“The second thing is sexual currency. If a man’s sex drive is very high and he talks about sex all the time, you need to assess yourself. If you don’t have the same level of interest in sex, that marriage may face constant challenges. Make sure your sexual currency aligns before you decide to get married.”

Her comments stand out because discussions about intimacy are often treated as sensitive topics within many religious communities. By raising the issue publicly, she highlighted an area that many couples may avoid discussing during courtship despite its potential impact on married life.

The broader message is that compatibility involves more than shared affection. It also requires openness about expectations that could affect everyday life after marriage.

Why tithing matters to her

Perhaps her most debated point centred on generosity and faith.

Celestine Donkor advised women to observe whether a prospective husband faithfully pays tithe, describing it as an indicator of his willingness to give and support others.

“Check whether he is stingy. Look at whether he pays his tithe. Don’t marry a man who doesn’t pay tithes. If he can’t give God 10%, then imagine how he will treat you, a fellow human being.”

Her argument reflects a belief held by many Christians that consistent tithing demonstrates obedience, generosity and commitment to one’s faith. In her view, those qualities are likely to influence how a man manages finances and treats his family.

At the same time, the advice is likely to divide opinion. Some believers see tithing as a biblical obligation and a measure of spiritual discipline, while others argue that generosity and good character cannot be judged solely by whether someone gives 10 percent of their income to the church.

A conversation likely to continue

Celestine Donkor’s remarks add to ongoing discussions about what truly predicts a successful marriage. Rather than focusing on outward appearances or financial status alone, she emphasised communication, compatibility and faith-based values as the foundation of a lasting relationship.

Whether people agree with all three recommendations or not, her comments have reignited debate over the qualities that matter most in choosing a life partner. For many observers, the discussion is less about tithing itself and more about the broader principles of emotional maturity, honesty and generosity that couples bring into marriage.